My truck came with the factory tow pkg. I tried to hook up the flood light on the trailer directly to the wiring harness and it just blows the fuse in the truck.
Most likely its because the total draw of the lights is too much for that circuit. You will need a relay as I described. The existing wire in the center position should be from the backup light right? Use that to trigger the relay instead. On the power side of the relay run one end to the truck battery or some other capable ignition on power source. The other end goes to the vacated center terminal on the truck. DOWNHILL you mentioned running power to the bosch relay from a battery, where is this battery?
I used my truck battery, but you could also put the relay in the trailer and use the trailer battery to power the lightsin the truck or on the trailer? I also want to run a power wire to the battery tender in the trailer so when I am driving I can charge that battery. I want to be able to have the flood light on the trailer power independantly of the battery that is on the trailer.
then use the scheme I described using the bosch relay on the truckhttp://www.etrailer.com/faq-wiring.aspx. It looks like the middle connector is the reverse light and the black wire is a constant 12volts.
correct, the black wire is designed to charge the battery but you do not need a battery tender/charger. It is wired direct to the battery. A tender/charger is a 115 volt device designed to charge the battery from shore powerI can use the black wire to power my battery tender and also go through a relay that will power my flood light on the trailer that is excited somehow when put in reverse?
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