I just read over the posts and I thought I would add my $.02 worth.
I would buy the Big Buddy heater instead of the smaller Buddy heater. You don't have to turn it all the way up, but you can if needed. What is the old expression, "It is better to have it and not need it than to need it and not have it." I think burning a lantern to take the chill off is an excellent way to go. I have been using a couple of different 2 mantle lanterns for years. One I know is 25+ years old. I recently picked up a single mantle compact lantern just to provide a bit more versitality.
I now use 3 types of tents. One is a small "3" person backpacking from REI, another is a 120 sqft "Alaskan" from Cabellas and finally, a Jumping Jack tent trailer. The 2 ground tents have more than enough ventilation and with a slight adjustment at the bottom of the door the JJ has plenty of fresh air. I have used an open flame alcohol burning stove burning all night while in a tent in Norway when attached to their Army. I have used candles in numerous small tents for years.
I guess you could have a fabric shelter that was air tight enough for problems but you would have to go some to make it that way. I have been in the artic when it rained and then froze causing a near air tight seal, but we just dealt with it. The same goes for a wood-metal shelter. There is just a lot of places for the air to move back and forth, stick built homes included.
As a rule, I use heat sources for warming the tent for preparation for going to bed or before getting up. I plan on enough bedding to not need alternative heating while sleeping or even laying around in bad weather reading, etc. I think the Big Buddy heaters are the answer to a camper's wishes. Does anyone have a formula for oxegen transfer / surface area / opening ?
Okay maybe not 2 cents, more like a dime.
Steve