CJW - I understand what you are saying and I have personally wheeled a TJ YJ and ZJ and dont think a full size ram will be much worse then the ZJ. I have mainly ruled out the Jeeps/zuks/toyota's due to axles weakness. Jeeps have the dana 44 in the TJ but they are usually a bit more pricey and harder to come by. Most have the dana 35 (including my old TJ and YJ) and are more of a head ache then anythink. A 8.8 will swap in but then you need an sye and some modding/building of the axle. The zuks/toys are either solid axle and carbed or ifs and injected (with the exception of a very few of which I have yet to find north of the border and not basket cases). Also, with my skill levels of fabbing, a SAS is out.
The stock axles on a 1500 should be able to handle 35s with no issues and the upgrade to one ton axles are bolt in which is why its ideal to me. I already have a good winch sitting in my shed and I'm not afraid to use a sawzall or get body damage.
Bftank - I actually currently have a dakota (2 wheel drive though). The 5.9 only came in the R/T as far as I know and those are 2wd. The biggest issue for me with the dakota's from a wheeling stand point is the weak IFS and doesn't seem to be a lot of aftermarket support for them.
I've already looked at ffdustyw build a lot and Ramv has a really nice build as well. Haven't seen turbosniper's build yet but I'll check it out.
I know I'm leaning strong towards a ram but its mainly due to the axles (decent axles in them and super easy to upgrade) and a good sized V8 to power it as well as the availability of the truck.