2 60s will be easier to handle, and 20% more watts.
Solenoid.
The factory alternator to battery charging wire won't be either #2 or #4, so why bother going larger than that wire if both batteries are under the hood? The only reason to do so, is if you ever plan to jump start off the aux battery or tie them to run a winch - which a diode isolator won't do anyway.
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